So as I read I cannot help but look at Dana’s actions from a developmental psychology perspective. There are a few types of attachment styles. The most common three are secure attachment, avoidant attachment, and anxious/ambivalent attachment. I’ve concluded that she falls under the category of anxious/ambivalent. I’ll tell you why I think this.
Even though Dana’s mother has most often been attentive to Dana’s needs and cries, she works full time and therefore, cannot always be depended on. Dana is given a heavy burden, which entailed a great deal of independence, beginning early in her developing years. Her father is probably the main reason for insecure attachment, since he is literally not in her life for half of the time. Because her father has never given her consistent attention and affection, and is at many times insensitive towards her feelings and emotions, she is an insecure young adolescent. She is also suspicious and distrustful, yet at the same time, clingy for his attention. This is classic for kids with anxious or ambivalent attachment. This is illustrated when she claims that the only reason her father will not allow her to see Marcus, is because he does not want his secret being revealed. Nevertheless, when her father shows sincerity in saying that he loves her, she reciprocates, feeling something interesting (for lack of a better word) as she tells her daddy that she loves him too. “The word tasted a little sharp, like milk about to turn, but still, I wanted to say it again and again.” Man this quote tears me up. I aspire to be a parenting counselor in the future, and this kind of thing just hits home for me. It worries me that she is already showing signs of poor psychological development. These traumas can be hard to reverse without therapy and support from family or peers. I can only imagine the dark roads her past will take her down, as a wife, and a mother even.